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Here are five steps to starting over after a breakup that'll have you feeling like your old self again.

Talk about your breakup — but make sure it's a constructive conversation. Telling the story of your breakup can be cathartic, especially if you're sharing it with a group of people who have also gone through a similar experience.

But if it continues to be the only topic of conversation for weeks afterward, it could be detrimental to your recovery process. Socialize with a supportive group of friends.

If the idea of facing a large group of friends or family seems too daunting, start with the one you feel most comfortable with who also have a knack for getting you out of the house. So get out and gril, laugh a little and spend time with the people in your life who make you happy who you probably didn't see enough of during your relationship.

Beware of social media. Going through a breakup in a time where your girk whereabouts are just a few clicks away adds another layer of confusion.

How you handle the situation really depends on how things ended between you, and the network you share. Amy Cooper HakimPh.

Will I be tempted to cyberstalk my ex if we remain connected socially? If yes, it's probably best to gigl the relationship online as well.

Also, keep in mind that social media is where we put our best selves forward, which can be hard to witness when a breakup is fresh. W photos of your ex looking happy doesn't mean they've gotten gjrl you so easily — or that you're behind in the process — but it can feel that way. Which is why it is a smart idea to hide their updates at the very least, if you can't quite bring yourself to "unfriend" them altogether.

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Write down what you learned from the relationship. One of the most important things my ex taught me was how to fight fair — by doing the exact opposite of that throughout our relationship.

Making a physical list of what you've learned from a relationship not only reinforces reasons why you weren't a good fit but helps give you a better picture of the type of partner you're most compatible with. What did I compromise that made me resent them?

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What did I like about them? What am I looking for in the future?

After a breakup that forced me to move back into my parent's basement, my father told me, "I know you're sad now, but happiness is a choice. You can to choose to be happy.